Autobiography of a Female Foetus

In an unknown form, I am the destination of a journey called love,
The day my seeds were sown, i was tender and delicate like a dove.
My Creator was my Preserver and the Nurturer, in human form,
An epitome of divinity, both caring and warm.
She thought and dreamt about me for so many days,
I extracted all my essentials from her in many ways.
I was proud to carry forward the extension of my family,
My Father’s prayers were being answered and thus he indulged in charity.
With the passage of few months, I started gaining shape and size,
My Mother became more cautious and I was frequently under the doctor’s ultrasonic eyes.
One day, out of curiosity, my Granny threw ‘The Question’,
My parents couldn’t help but ignore the apprehension.
The lady doctor was requested and also promised to be rewarded,
While she was checking my nervous Mother and my heart-beat was being recorded.
My parents were anxious and the doctor looked thoughtful,
She asked, ‘What if the result is unfavourable, will you be merciful?”
My parents fell short of words and it was Granny who started to blabber,
In whose arms I had visualised myself being adored and cradled.
The doctor was convinced there was no escape from the crime,
But considering the reward in return, she didn’t seem to mind.
The test took place and the verdict was out,
There was a scary silence in the room and Granny gave a frown.
My Mother was numb, gathering courage to face the truth,
My Father looked helpless in front of her mother’s ruth.
Both my parents exchanged a look of despair and pain,
Tears rolled down my Mother’s cheeks, but their influence in vain.
The couple embraced each other and tried to be strong.
They thought, “Bringing her to life and still doing injustice will also be wrong.”
My death sentence didn’t take me aback yet my eyes watered,
I was like a goat who knows she is going to be slaughtered.
My Granny interrupted and forced my guardian to my gallows,
Where, on the contrary, I could have been welcomed and hallowed.
The door was shut and outside stood my Father wondering in disgust,
“Is it really humane for two women and mothers, on the law of nature, to have such distrust?”
The prick of unconsciousness was more like a slow poison,
It wasn’t the needle’s pain but the loss that made my Mother’s eyes moisten.
My assassination was done, the doctor acted innocent like a nun,
Mother laid lifeless, and Father sat besides, holding her hand and looked stunned.
I was pushed to Death even before I could see Life,
The complices being a doctor, a man, his mother and his wife.
In hopes of ‘the real successor’, i was considered an obstruction,
Which led the same source of my Creation to be my very source of Destruction.

Unity in Diversity- The Indian Paradox

  • A man’s ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties; no religious basis is necessary. Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death. ~ Albert Einstein

Paradox, as the term generally applies, is an apparently true statement or group of statements that leads to a contradiction or a situation that seems opposite. It simply means that the two premises cannot be held as true together.

We Indians used to feel extreme pride in portraying an example of ‘Unity in Diversity’. I used ‘past tense’ because we are not united any more. In the current scenario, ‘Diversity’ is the only word to describe India. It is a land of opposites, where rich and poor stand side-by-side; shanty towns built-in front of 5 star resorts; the beauty of The Taj Mahal juxtaposed to the slums of the Taj Gunj; Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs, Christians and many other religions co-exist. This diversification itself has become a threat to humanity. Since past few decades, we are fighting in the name of ‘religion’; religion, that is considered to be our moral foundation. Such an irony!!

There are certain teachings common in every religion like love, compassion, sympathy and gratitude. So if we are actually religious, then why can’t we carry out these principles instead of proving other religions or their followers as wrong? The Holy Bible itself claims: “God has written a law on the hearts of all. Everyone has a conscience, and although the outer ring of our conscience may be influenced by religion, the inner core is universal and unchanging.”

For instance, there isn’t a human being alive who doesn’t know the good and right of love, and there isn’t a human being alive who doesn’t know the evil and wrong of murder. In the Biblical view, if we are confused about such things as sex, selfishness, abortion and euthanasia, the problem isn’t so much that we don’t know about right and wrong, but that we “suppress what we do know” about them.

We consider ourselves to be very open and adaptable when it comes to accepting someone from a different land. Then why can’t the Bangladeshi writer Taslima Nasreen, who was forced to leave her country, is given refugee in India by our politicians? Are they scared of being revolted against by the fundamentalists? Or they want to keep this minority in their favor for getting votes? Even in her worst nightmares she had not thought that she would be persecuted in Bangladesh by the majority and in India by the minority, but persecuted just the same. What good would it bring to kill her? No benefit to Islam at least!!

Why should a barbed wire keep families and friends apart even though they share a common language and culture? What hurts the most is that this wire has been secured by religion. “All religions are ancient monuments to superstition, ignorance and ferocity”, said a French philosopher Baron D’ Holback. Religion has been described as the root of human misery and conflict – that more people have been killed in the name of religion than in any other cause.

Is Politics, a worthy cause to pull out a partition and divide a nation? Is Race, a worthy cause to burn human beings alive? Some may say yes and be proud about it. There is absolutely no way to prove them wrong. But the fact remains, they have become violent and in being so they are violating the natural state of Peace. Gandhi’s non-violence approach may have definitely affected India’s freedom fight, but it has surely saved Humanity.

We talk too much about excellence and we forget to talk about being good. But the word “good” means everything; it means righteousness, morality and perfect alignment. Aren’t these the things we really want to have in our lives? This is an era of globalization and liberalization. So why can’t we liberalize our acceptance and openness to everyone? Why can’t we globalize one common religion, i.e., ‘Humanity’?

We can continue with this madness or we can simply start asking ourselves – is the fight really required? Can’t we let go of our want to fight? The purpose of religion should be love and peace and not hatred and revenge. It depends on us, how we use it and in which direction we take it. Don’t let Humanity become a Monster!

“Tu na hindu banega, na musalman banega, insaan ki aulaad hai insaan banega.”

The Uprising of ‘She’- A Truth or Myth

Kalpana Chawla and Sunita Williams reaching the space; Kiran Mazumdar Shaw becoming the richest Indian woman through her biotech enterprise, ‘Biocon’; Indira Nooyi, CEO of Pepsi Ltd. making her nation proud; Indira Gandhi and Sonia Gandhi reaching heights in their political careers; Mother Teresa, a name everyone reveres; P.T.Usha or Sania Mirza taking Indian sports to a new dimension; Kiran Bedi or Kanchan Chaudhary, women to whom the whole nation salutes ! This is a brief and broad picture of todays modern and successful, but few fortunate women.

The phenomenon of women empowerment has attracted massive attention in recent years. So much has been said and so much has been heard to uplift women economically, politically and culturally. But, is the woman of today socially empowered? If not in it’s literal sense then at least in the eyes of men?

We, the women of today are entering into diversified fields with great determination and enthusiasm. We try our best not to leave any stone unturned. Whether it be taking care of our families, managing the workplace, or both, we are striking just the right balance everywhere. But what hurts here is to see that a large section of society is still not open enough to welcome this change in favor of women. Its attitude towards women has still not changed; in fact, things have indeed gone from bad to worse after Independence. Despite law, such reprehensible practices as female feticide, female infanticide and child marriage are still prevalent in many parts of the country. Dowry is a plague that stalks every family having marriageable daughters and like AIDS it has no cure. Incidents of sexual harassment, eve teasing, sexual abuse of female children and rapes are on the rise. Women form a sizeable percentage of the workforce in the unorganized sector, but most of the labor laws do not cover them. Those who have been to the pilgrim centers of Mathura, Vrindavan and Varanasi would have noticed the large number of widows living in hopeless destitution.

Emotional or physical abuse in relationships is not uncommon. And it’s not only the illiterate or the ignorant that are the reasons behind such violence; what surprises is that quite often such abusers are well-read, intelligent and educated men. Convicted IPS officer R.K. Sharma, in the journalist Shivani Bhatnagar murder case is one example. Another such shocking incident was of Bangalore-based software engineer Amit Budhiraja, asphyxiating his wife with a pillow on suspicion of an extra-marital affair; he later committed suicide on knowing his wife was innocent.

Kidnappings, black mailings, acid attacks have become a routine in our society. General rise of aggression in the society has resulted in increased cases of emotional disorders. These often go undetected. Why are men increasingly becoming abusive? The reasons could be suspicion, jealousy, ignorance, dissatisfaction or anything. Increased stress and fast-paced lifestyle has reduced the tolerance level. Increase in infidelity has given rise to insecurity, therefore one finds it difficult to handle rejection and hits back. Decreasing influence of the community and family in one’s life, at times of distress, is also responsible for the plight. There is no emotional outlet and thus, this gets translated into violence or aggressive behavior.

It also has to do a lot with the upbringing of men in our society. They have been taught not to cry or express their negative feelings in any positive manner leading to such outbursts. It is the urge for proving male supremacy that ends up over-riding all other sensibilities. Thanks to the patriarchal society we live in, man feels woman is his property. It is true even today, despite having more working women on the scene. Economic empowerment does not necessarily lead to social empowerment.

It’s saddening to see that even after proving herself in every sphere, a woman is not given the respect she deserves in our society. She seems more like a play-thing to the opposite gender, devoid of emotions and feelings. It’s for all to see in which direction is our society moving, and it’s only in our hands where we want to take it. A man’s thinking that women are weak will not actually make them so. We have always been fighters and will fight out this plight as well. Women have got to make the world safe for men since men have made it so dammed unsafe for women.

Random Thoughts

Silence often helps in finding the right answers.

Love is like the air which can never cease. Some relationships are like the cool breeze which soothe your senses and some are like the dusty storms which pollute the very existence of air.

Winning and loosing lose their relevance when it comes to spreading smiles across the faces of those you love.

Religion not only suggests us the way to worship our God but also gives us a reason to fight.

When two people suffer a loss of the same magnitutde, a silent touch consoles more than words.

No one looses as much as the egoist himself.

At times you have to destroy something old to create something new.

If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.

Love has its own time, season and own reasons. You can’t ask it to stay, you can only embrace it as it comes and be glad that for a moment in your life, it was yours.

The truth you speak has no past and no future, it is, and that’s all it needs to be.

If words express, silence heals.

The beauty of emotions is that you can’t be logical about them.

Vagueness should not always be misunderstood for lack of clarity or inability to express, it can sometimes strike the right balance between how much to express and how much to conceal.

It is simple to be complicated but extremely complicated to be simple.

Its important in life to conclude things properly, only then can you let go.

You are in the most realizing and receptive state when in bed and not sleepy.

In any partnership, personal or professional, it’s not about being 50:50, but knowing when to be 70 and when to be 30.

It is wiser to find out than to suppose.

To err is human, but to stick to the error even after knowing its an error……Blunder !

Educating children can not be the only solution to our socio- economic problems. They learn as much at home, from parents and family, as in school. They observe us and repeat their observations. What’s important is to be good teachers ourselves and set an example rather than just expect education to work wonders for our future society.

It’s impractical to try to change people, u land up upsetting urself, as well as others. If you can’t change the circumstances, you can change ur attitude 2wards it. Just think that the negatives too shall pass. Respect the differences in people, instead of criticising it, n be hopefull of a better tomorrow.

Forgiving is easier than forgetting.

Peace is not something you wish for, it’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.

Crying in front of the wrong people is worse than laughing in front of the wrong people.

The difference between a good and a bad decision is equal to the difference between relying on what you know and relying on what you perceive.

Seasons depict life in a beautiful way. Waiting for autumn is like a child waiting for his future, a stage of excitement and unfamiliarity..while spring is like old age, having already seen the winters and at peace with the past.

Fasting is not just for food and from the tummy, it is in the mind, an exercise of self- control.

Religion is not about idle worship….its in the magic and beauty of nature, the Sun rising everyday, the Moon balancing the heat with its coolness and calmness, the rivers, the greens.. And its about keeping the God inside alive.. people being good to others without any expectations.

Anything or anyone you are extremely attached to, should only be your strength, not your weakness. And unfortunately, if it does become your weakness, it’s time to be stronger and let it go.


			

If I were…

If I were a Painter, I would paint you and me sitting at the seashore, looking at the sunset and the sea so vast, like the love we share.

If I were a Musician, I would compose all those notes, the melodies of which can sing of our eternal togetherness.

If I were a Dancer, I would choreograph our performance on the stage of life in a way that we take every step together and move ahead, hand in hand.

If I were a Gardener, I would sow the seeds of your life along with the flowers of joy and throw away all the thorns.

If I were an Actor, I would play your part in the ideal life i desire for you and show you how flawless i want everything to be, with co-actors being the people you love and moments you wish to see.

If I were a sportsman, I would make sure that I win every match for you in the series of your life and keep you miles away from any defeat.

If I were a Pilot, I would fly you to the Moon where there are only you and me, and the dreams we have nurtured together.

If I were an Architect, I would design your velvet home around the peaks of love, valleys of joy, ocean of luck and pastures of your wishes.

If  I were a Magician, I would make you close your eyes, so that when you open them, all your worries vanish and you only have reasons around to make you smile.

If I were a Poet, I would rhyme your smile, your life and your very presence in a way that every word becomes your source of glory, every line my expression of love and every full stop, a new beginning.

Health, Fitness, Food and Well-being

Did you know that just walking for 30 minutes, 3 or 4 times a

week is enough to combat aging?

 

To reduce the strain on your heart, sleep on your right side, or on

your back. This simple technique will add years to your life.

 

If you smoke, you can greatly reduce the risk of contracting

cancer by drinking carrot juice.

 

A placebo study has shown that asthmatics who consume 1 gram

of vitamin C per day had 4 times fewer attacks.

 

Pakistani women have an amazing trick they use to stay slim: they

keep a string permanently tied around their forearms. According to

Dr. Drupas, a gentle but constant pressure on the nerves in the

forearm stimulates certain glands, particularly those involved in

weight control (thyroid, suprarenals).

 

 

To treat diarrhea, avoid all solid food on the first day. Drink

liquids like water, apple juice, meat or vegetable boullion and tea.

These will compensate for your loss of water – dehydration being one

of the main dangers of diarrhea – and will give your intestines a

period of rest.

 

Did you know that half a teaspoon of ground ginger is more

effective than chemical medication in suppressing motion or sea

sickness?

 

Heat relaxes the muscles and ligaments. When applied locally, for

example, with hot towels, it can ease muscle spasms. It can also

reduce arthritic pain. Heat dilates the blood vessels, which in turn

activates circulation.

 

Drinking 2 glasses of orange juice daily can help lower blood pressure and cut the risk of heart disease.

Toasts and croissants can speed up aging.

 

For over 45s, an aspirin a day can cut cancer risk.

 

Soy milk is naturally low in saturated fat, and because it’s plant-based, it’s cholesterol free. It also offers up some nutrients that cow’s milk does not, including heart-healthy omega-3 fats.

 

Mustard paste can be used for general muscular relief and to help “cure” toothaches. It also became known to stimulate appetite and digestion, help clear sinuses, and increase blood circulation.  Mustard flour can even be sprinkled in your socks to help prevent frostbite.

 

Olive oil has lots of anti-oxidants and anti-inflammatory activity to fight rheumatoid arthritis.It is the only vegetable oil that can be created simply by pressing the raw material.

 

Eating yoghurt on a regular basis can help you absorb the nutrients in other foods.

 

One cup of pineapple has about 135 calories and 33% of the RDA of Vitamin C.

 

Limit the consumption of white sugar, white bread and oil to avoid cardiac risks.

 

One of the special things about the way oats work unlike any other fiber is that it lowers only bad cholesterol while keeping the good cholesterol (HDL) remain unchanged.

 

Green tea contains significant amounts of folic acid and can reduce clotting of blood, providing protection against cardiovascular diseases.

 

Barley is a good source of ‘beta glucan’, a water soluble form of fibre that retards fat and cholesterol absorption by the intestine.

 

Cabbage juice has ulcer healing capabilities, however, patients with gas trouble should avoid it.

 

Cucumber juice cleanses your kidneys, lowers blood pressure and improves skin problems.

 

Beet juice cleanses the blood and strengthens the gall bladder and liver.

 

Carrot juice is an excellent source of beta carotene, potassium, trace minerals and anti-cancer nutrients.

 

Garlic acts as a natural antibiotic and blood thinner and can reduce cholesterol level.

 

Ginger has anti-inflammatory properties and will also protect the stomach from irritation. Migraines and motion sickness can also be relieved by ginger juice.

 

Wheat grass juice is used as an enema, It helps detoxify the walls of the piles. It can be mixed with spinach and lime.

 

Bitter gourd juice is used as an anti-diabetic medicine. It also helps in purifying the blood.

 

Bottle gourd juice is used in the treatment of stomach acidity, indigestion, ulcers, epilepsy and other nervous diseases.

 

Drinking water charged with solar energy everyday can curb the headaches.

 

Flax seeds aid in weight loss.

 

Wheat grass can counter the adverse effects of sunstroke.

 

Finger millet helps in strengthening bones.

 

Sunflower seeds help in the prevention and cure of arthritis. It provides a natural glow to the skin and hair and combats heart related ailments.

 

Drink chilled water/lemon, ginger and honey in cold water or chew roasted fennel seeds to be stress free.

 

Consumption of walnut and cow milk paste can enhance memory.

 

Seeing is Healing

Red hibiscus, yellow goldenrod, red gulmoher, white/pink bougainvillea, light blue/purple morning glory, white roses, lift your mood. Keep them in your vicinity.

 

What keeps you Cool

Keep rock slt at four corners of the house to ward off negativity. Change it everyday.

Paint walls in the colour of yellow sapphire.

A crystal multicolour tree works wonders.

Crystal kailash Yantra is beneficial.

Spend time with pets as it can relieve depression, reduce blood pressure and triglycerides.

 

Express your Emotion

Tai Chi, Yoga, Meditation, and massage are stress busters. Listen to your favorite music/ read your favorite author/ tend to your hobby/ catch up with friends.

A good chuckle works your stomach muscles and takes care of your tension.

Being positive and appreciative of little things in life are great mood uppers.

Laughter anytime will work wonders for you, It is an instant way to unleash the pressure and it makes you feel light.

A Moment of Realization

Seeing the setting sun as i walk past the river,

Tall trees resting in front, in background, the reddish rays flicker.

Birds moving back to their nest, adding a shade to the sky,

It’s neither a canvas, nor a dream, but the soul beginning to fly.

I look around and wonder, what is it that makes me stay,

The soothing blue, the lush green, their intermingle and play.

The wind blows and the sky turns grey,

I close my eyes and hear a ripple say,

“In this moment is where your heart lies,

Neither the hustle-bustle of the town, nor the crowds’ cries.”

It’s this soil from where I come and where I’ll go, I remember,

So I hug the grass, and to the moment, I surrender.

To The Spirit of Rishikesh !

Lush green mountains and the Ganges so blue,
Saffron clad men n the colourful you.
Misty winters n pastal Spring,
Summers are hot but plenty of rains they bring.

Rafting and camping are so much fun,
Visiting temples can give you a run.
Tourists of all races ain’t no fool,
Shacks n cafes are a combi so cool.

Kawads in July, make you wanna cry,
But the traffic, the horns, are worth a try.
Yoga and meditation are here at their best,
From ‘The Beatles’ to ‘Rajnikant’, all have here taken rest.

Crowd during peak season can top the diversity test,
Beauty, peace, vibrance and sanctity,
Together sit pretty in this nest.

For splashing around the Ganges, you don’t need shoes and socks,
Lets cheer, dance and sing, ‘Rishikesh Rocks, Rishikesh Rocks !’